As women, we don’t know what we want because we don’t know what’s possible.
Not only that, but we’re scared that if we did know what is possible, we wouldn’t be heard, our desires would be dismissed, or we would be shamed.
We’re scared and in the dark about our sweetness and our wildness, scared of ourselves and our edges, and scared to be vulnerable in case we turn out to be weak or boring. We are scared to be too passionate in case we’re ‘too much’, so we close down and give up, feel misunderstood, sad and disconnected.
From my experience in working with men and with couples, I can say with certainty that men want us to know what is possible. What’s more, they are delighted when we ask for what we want.